29 Dec Noted Psychologist Says It’s Time We Stop Blaming Women for Lack of Male Motivation
Recently, doctor, psychologist and author Leonard Sax, contributed an article to Psychology Today (see references) where he decries the modern movement whereby many authors (mostly women) blame the decreasing lack of motivation and success of the American male, on the increasing drive, motivation and success of American women.
We’ve all seen it on the news, more women are graduating from college than more, more of them are actually going to college now; more are graduating near the top from high school, and the male half of the species is drifting towards the bottom, right from the get-go.
Reason to Succeed:
Sax says that many men see little reason to succeed when they no longer feel all that necessary; they used to be needed to bring home the paycheck and to help raise the kids. Now, women make their own money and increasingly prefer to raise their kids without a father around. At least that’s what you’d think reading many of the books currently on the market.
Sax says he’s been studying this issue for years and sees other reasons for the decline in enthusiasm by men regarding their future. He doesn’t come right out and say it, but he very clearly is laying a lot of the blame at the feet of teachers, and mothers. Boys don’t do as well in school as they used to do, because they don’t like it anymore. Where they used to be allowed to be boys, now everything is structured to suit the girls. No more rough-housing, or belching or farting. No more physical activities that let boys blow off steam. No more teasing the girls or even conversing as boys like to do; in short, no more being boys, at home or at school. It’s no wonder they grow up hating both home life and school, and no wonder that once they’re old enough, they’re leaving school entirely.
But, the question remains, does all this have something to do with the rise of the successful career woman? Is it possible, that because women now have more say in what goes on in the home, as well as how schools are run, that they are, at least in part to blame for the decreasing success rate of men?
There is no answer to this, as there are no real studies on the subject, which might be due to the fact, that if such a study were to be undertaken, it would likely have to be driven by women, and they clearly have no reason to do so.